Marriage

    Marriage is something as a kid I didn't think about much, but once I turned 20 it took over my thoughts. My younger cousin was starting to talk about getting engaged to his high school sweetheart, I felt like I was behind, so clearly the thing I have to do is set up an online dating profile while he was talking. Thinking back on this event, it reminds me of the "deadline of 30" that we talked about in class. There was a pressure I created for myself that I needed to be on track to reach this milestone. But now I don't feel the same pressure that I did before. The reason I feel more relaxed is because after being in a good relationship for a while I don't feel like I need marriage to show my love and feel loved.  I would love for it to happen and I am 99.99% sure that it will happen but at this point if it happens after 30 I am ok with that. 

    Since I am talking about the theme of marriage, I just wanted to put some concerns for my future wedding out. Theme is going to be one of the hardest things to figure out because there needs to be a good balance between our hobbies and what makes sense to people outside the hobby. For example we both love Pokémon but if it was a Pokémon themed wedding, it would be confusing and unenjoyable for the people not familiar with the franchise. I also worry that it will be taken over by either what I want or what he wants. It's important to me that we share the day so that it is enjoyable for both of us. When my mom was married my dad had no input in the wedding (by his own choice) and it made her feel like she was taking over the day. I don't want that, but I am not sure when to give and when to take of what I want.