What is my Identity

    In this post I want to look at the parts of my identity that mean the most to me. First, my hobbies are a big part of me (at least some of them). I love Pokémon card collecting and will talk your ear off about all of the different aspects of it if you let me. Having this hobby allows me to connect with others over a topic that I have a deep understanding of. In the same vein I also really love video games and think that they are a part of who I am because they allow me to thinking about scenarios that I wouldn't have thought of. For example, how would I act if I got a giant ranch of silly little slimes and how would I treat them? (The answer is having ranches of no more than 7 slimes per enclosures because I feel bad if they look too crowded. I also make sure they all have their favorite food and toys) Second, my desire for work life balance is a big part of me. I am not a career motivated person, so understanding that allows me to find the things that do make me want to go to work. Lastly, my relationship is a big part of me. I know total shocker that the relationship I talk about whenever I get the chance makes me me. But seriously this relationship really does mean so much and I wouldn't be the person I am now without it. Before I started dating I was a massive mess and definitely not happy, however he helped me be ok with parts of myself I don't like and allows me to share even the cringy parts of myself without judgement. 

What makes me an adult?

    Being an adult is different for every person. In this post I wanted to explore that comparing what goals I need to hit to feel like an adult versus what goals my boyfriend has.

    For me there are 3 main ones. First, being finically independent. My whole life I have hated just taking money for no reason, so having a job and earning all the money I have would make me feel very grown up. Second, is buying things that I don't want to. I dislike spending money on things that aren't fun like medicines and bills, so paying for them even if I don't want to makes me feel mature. Lastly, taking care of something and having it thrive makes me feel like an adult. For this I am think like having a cat that is well feed, healthy, happy, and comfortable. Being able to help a creature thieve makes me feel mature. Something to note is that I don't feel like an adult. 

    For my boyfriend, first he said the fitting into the stereotypical attributes of adults like owning a credit card, having a car, and having a job. "its the box, its the label" is the reason those things make him feel like an adult. Second, is doing things he doesn't want to do even though he knows they are good for him. The reason he feels like this is because not doing those tasks makes him feel childish. Lastly, was buying 240 volt appliance like a fridge or stove. "It's a big purchase and implies that you have your own place and are using the appliance to facilitate living." He does feel like an adult.